There is a book called He’s Just Not that into you https://www.amazon.com/dp/B001HC8516/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
There is another book called Be Honest – you are not that into him either https://www.amazon.com/Honest-Youre-Not-That-Into-Either/dp/0060834064/ref=sr_1_1?s=digital-text&ie=UTF8&qid=1497722786&sr=8-1&keywords=you+are+not+that+into+him+either
The second book is a terribly written book that I hated reading so much that I left it in the bathroom of the cafe that I was reading it in.
However, I did learn one thing from the book that I wasn’t aware of. Now I wish I hadn’t left the book in the loo so that I could give you a direct quote. But as I recall, it goes something like this – a man rather get his arm ripped off by a herd of wild elephants than tell a woman that he is done with the relationship.
This really was news to me.
Did you know this? Well, I didn’t.
Once I read it I realized that I had experienced this both in long term relationships and also after I had just met a guy once or twice.
In the long term relationship I always ended it when I felt the relationship was turning sour, thinking I should leave before he does. Little did I know that the guy was behaving in ways that would compel me to leave. And here I was thinking I was being proactive and clever.
Okay, so I can understand the hesitation in ending a committed, once loving relationship in fear of the woman’s reaction. But after 1-2 or 3 dates? How childish is that?
And frustrating. Don’t even get me started with how damn frustrating and cowardly this behavior is.
I did an unscientific poll asking several guys if they ever failed to call a woman after one or two dates.
They all said yes.
“Why?” I asked.
“Because I didn’t want to upset her.”
“Really? And by not calling her you are keeping her from being upset? I see.”
Jesus Christ! Men can be so stupid!
“I didn’t want to hear her moaning and groaning, or yelling at me,” said one guy.
This is a true story. A guy really told me this. A guy who seemed perfectly reasonable and sane to me.
Shows you how much I know.
I have news, dear men. If you tell a woman after the first or second date that you are not interested, most likely she will say thank you and that’ll be the end of that.
There are of course some women who will yell and scream and then boil your pet bunny – but that is a rare occurrence and I am not talking of those women.
And now for my question:
Dear Men, what is it that we women do that you do not understand?
Try to keep your answers short and succinct 🙂
In the end, I have to say this:
Dear men, why are you such babies and so flighty?
Until I date again!